How Good Is Group SEX? I've long been fascinated by the idea of group sex. I've never tried it, but it's part of my fantasies. I asked a friend who has participated in a number of these scenes and he said "It's a bit disappointing. People usually just pair off and have sex in couples as if they were alone". Does group sex ever turn out to involve a lot of people simultaneously involved with each other? What is the ideal setting for group sex? How many participants are the ideal number? Peter Peter I'd say not more than 3 or 4.. depending on what you have in mind. Anymore than that, and things just become too distracting! Terry 20-May-86 10:32:46 Dear Terry: 3 or 4 ... do you think the best would be two males and two females, or some other configuration? And if 3, should they be two girls and a man or two men and a girl? Peter Peter, To each his or her own as it were, but 2 couples, 2 male and 2 female seemed best to me. I also have heard of problems with 3's, but I think the ultimate solution is just to have compatible people to begin with. I've had wonderful times with 2 men and a woman, and know of a case where just the reverse was true. Terry : * Peter * Well ... my own experience in a couple of such group occasions has been that the participants didn't separate off into couples, but pretty much kept things going on a group level, i.e., everybody was both giving and receiving mucho stimulation from everyone else. An important consideration at these times was that the people involved (two men and two women, plus yours truly) were on the bisexual end of heterosexuality, so that when us lasses got all sort of wrapped up in each other, the men participating felt comfortable with giving each other a hand (so to speak), instead of just keeping their distance from each other. On the whole, the experience was wonderful, and, I'd recommend it for folks who want to have some extra-special fun with close friends. B. 23-May-86 09:00:07 Dear Brenda: I'm delighted to learn that it can be as much fun as I imagine it to be. I suppose that there has to be at least some element of bisexuality for it to get much beyond the pairing-off into couples stage, and that you would have to choose the participants with this in mind. How did you get the whole thing started? Did it just sort of happen, or did you plan it in advance? Huggs ... Peter 23-May-86 18:04:31 Peter Well, these cheery events happened at a couple of conventions. There wasn't really planning as such. We *had* planned to meet with each other at some point during the con, and it all started out as just some people sitting around digesting a wonderful dinner. Then, with everyone sprawled out on the bed, limbs entangled and some pleasant conversation, we all just sort of gradually starting fiddling with each other's hair, and tickling necks, and dropping quick sweet pecks on shoulders and such, and then someone took someone else's shirt off, and it sort of got all mushy and sexy from there. I haven't been involved in group sex for a little while now, a couple of years, but even if the opportunity never pops up again (heaven forfend!) I treasure those hours greatly. B. 23-May-86 19:07:45 Brenda Sounds like I should go to more conventions! I bet it wasn't a computer business convention! Huggs ... Peter 25-May-86 09:14:40 Peter You're right about that. It was a science-fiction con, actually. Those folks can get a mite wild given the least excuse. I think it's a reflection of the interest itself, people have to be quite open-minded to accept, for a while, the possibile reality of whatever future, past, or alternate world that is being written about. And I think this willingness to open one's self up to ideas other than those one might have been taught or pressured into believing, spills over into a lot of other areas of an sf fan's life. For what it's worth (whoops, I meant, ``For what it's worth,'') I know that there are particular hotbeds of sf fans who first were exposed to, and became comfortable with, the idea of group sex through the Robert Heinlein book, STRANGER IN A STRANGE LAND. B. 25-May-86 14:04:59 Brenda So science fiction is where you can make your fantasies come true! Thanks for the reference to the book - I'll definitely look it up. I have recently been told about John Norman's series of books about GOR, which also combine science fiction with eroticism. I am looking forward to reading some of those. Best wishes ... * Peter * 25-May-86 20:53:22 as in many areas, three is the magic number. 25-May-86 22:39:1 Dear Harley, I thought *seven* was the magic number. Three? Listen, m'love... when a man says *three*, what he means is: two women and one man! I think that's a bit selfish and I'm sure you'll agree! Now if we could change the makeup of that threesome.....hmmmm. Hugggs, Eleanor 25-May-86 23:09:16 So how would you construct a sevensome, (septet?), Eleanor? By the way, are you aware of the implications of writing Hmmmmmm on this board? Higgs .... Peter 26-May-86 19:08:26 Dear Smug Elly- Actually, I WAS thinking of two men and one women. It takes 2 men to cope with a woman, you see. they can lend each other the emotional support that is needed so much when dealing with you female types. Peanut Butter huggs Harley 26-May-86 21:52:29 Oh! Just *emotional* support? Oreo Hugggs, Eleanor Dear Peter, I'm pretty much unaware of the implications of everything. A septet? Depends on who wants the septet, I think. If *I* were going to have a septet, it would have to be six men and me. Does that sound a bit greedy? Anyway, they would be my age or older (40+) and they would all madly adore me. And then.....and then..... Hey Peter. In Tibet they have polyandry! A woman often marries all of the brothers in a family. Sound great to me. One to earn a good living; one to do the yard work; one to keep house; one to take care of the kids; one to run errands; and one to do the bookwork. Wow! *I* would have to spend those days reading or strolling in the well-kept garden. You may not hear from me for a while. I'm checking OAG for flights to Lhasa! Huggggs, Eleanor Oh Don't go, Eleanor! If you leave us all seven of us will miss you terribly! Huggs..Peter Gosh Peter!!!!! You left out one tiny detail ----------------------------> DETAIL--------> WHICH SEVEN ??????? Hug, hug, hug, hug, hug, hug, hug! Eleanor 28-May-86 00:16:59 Me, Me, Me, Me, Me, Me and Me Higgs from all of us .... Peter 28-May-86 15:47:14 Actually, Elly dear, two men are needed so that one can hold the member of the gentle gender down so the other can do something other than screw for abit. with milk, (chocolate, of course) Harley t/ My experience with 'groups' was always with small ones; two girls and me, or two girls and two guys. Generally sex occurred in pairs with an occasional real threesome. It would seem to me that for larger real GROUP sex in every sense of the term, some tendency towards bisexuality becomes a prerequisite. I guess I haven't got those tendencies. For me to have sex with another male even in the room, I have to know him pretty well! w.w. Dear William I agree. I'd have a problem in having to deal with other males in a group sex situation. Perhaps my group sex fantasies are really harem fantasies - other men just don't come into them! Peter oooh! oooh! oooh! oooh! oooh! oooh! oooh! Gosh, Peter. I didn't know you did windows, too! Hugggs X 7 ! Eleanor < b l u s h > Hugggs, Eleanor ROGER CONTACT WITH THE OTHER MEN WAS LIMITED IN MOST INSTANCES TO NON-SEXUAL MASSAGE THE FEMALES INVOLVED WERE ADEQUATE TO DEAL WITH THE SEXUAL ASPECTS